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Au Revoir, 2013.

31 Dec

What a year it has been.
Pretension. Deception. Trust. Success. Failure. Love. Hatred. Disappointment.
That’s just the surface of the sea that I have crossed this year, just a glance of what my experiences this year appear to have been which I watch now as I stand at the door of the next.
It’s not 2014 yet, and I am glad, for I need to spend today to get closure on the past year, to bid goodbye to it, and to be ready for the next year. Above all, I need to prepare to change my habit of writing 2013 in the dates on my assignment.
I need to feel 2014, before I can welcome it.
But it’s not as easy as changing the date on a piece of paper.
It’s much much more heavy, more morbid, more complicated-to say the least.
I have lost another year in this world, moved a step closer to my death and have ended with yet another list of all my failures. Of all that I wanted and couldn’t get. Of all that I planned but which went awry.
Guaranteed the failures came hand in hand in success, but at such milestones in life you prefer knowing how many of your dreams, wishes, plans took the shape you wanted rather then glancing at the victories that seem too scripted-written by a bigger hand in the book of your fate.
But fate, time, faith-aren’t these three words that have eluded one and all from the beginning of mankind?
Deep questions to ponder over. But I don’t have time nor the constitution for that right now.
I am more in the mood of reminiscing. Of casting a look at how 2014 could be better, how I could be more prepared for the curveballs life keeps throwing at me?
Let’s start with the big moments of this year.
1. Some events occurred that finally assured me that nothing in this world is what it seems to be. Appearances, they come as false and colorful as you may and never can you guess what to believe in and what not to. Funny, though, that it took me forever to understand that there was no exception to that fact and that being cynical was my last weapon for unfortunately a lack the art of being two faced has always been my cross to bear.
2. I left my teens, saying goodbye to that sweet dream of being a millionaire teenager who wowed the socks off with how great I was. Great and awe inspiring in what, I never really figured out, but I bury the longing with the bittersweet emotion of a more mature tween realizing that I wasn’t one of the people Shakespeare was referring to when he talked about people “born with greatness” though I pray I might have some “greatness thrust upon me”.
3. Trust no one. So many incidences of this year proved this again and again. No one is worth baring your soul to. At some point in life you will fail to see eye to eye and the chances that your hour long heart-to-hearts will come back to bite you in your ass. Hard.
4. No couple lasts forever. Happily ever after is a farce. When the one last couple I had believed would defy all statistics and let their love win the day blew up into a billion pieces leaving too many casualties behind, I knew for sure what to believe in. No matter the depth of love at the start of the relationship and no matter the level of understanding at the end, there was no forever. It will end, you will be left by yourself and the best I could extract from it is one fact. Love is overrated. Shower your other relationships with the same worship and care and you will be far more successful then before. And your heart that much less damaged.
5. Luck is a fickle *itch. You work so hard and with such passion that success seems to be at your finger tips-you can almost feel it’s warmth surge through you-but then a blink and it’s all gone leaving you behind disappointed in yourself and the world.
6. My Instagram and Facebook pages of my blog turned out to be more successful then I anticipated, and there is nothing more heart warming them respect in what you love. Nothing more amazing then being turned to for advice in matters you have researched and worked on so hard to decipher.
7. With family, you can face any obstacle and come out with less scars and stronger bonds. Plus, you get to pull each other’s leg on the way without any hard feelings.
8. I found my niche both in my professional and personal life. Friends, that I feel get me more then anyone before. And our mutual relationship has blossomed into a wondrously beautiful and exotic garden filled with huge daily dozes of surprises and excitement.

It’s been a hard year. But friends, family and a “glass is completely full it just appears empty” attitude have let me pull through. The upcoming days offer nothing better. In fact, they frighten with an increase in both emotional and otherwise hardships but I enter it with hopes that it won’t kill me, and I will come out stronger.
However, top on my unofficial list of New year’s resolution is to find more time for family, to forge stronger bonds with my already amazingly loved sister and to value my friendship with my brothers.

Here though are a few other plans that I hope work towards a better me because a polished wholesome personality is what I crave for. And, call me crazy, but a more honest world is what I aim for.
1. Give more. Expect less.
2. Work intelligently, work hard, work sane.
3. Don’t wait. Just do it.
4. Write more. Give a damn about what others say, unless they appreciate your art.
5. Be more spontaneous. Don’t just crave adventure, keep showing up at all it’s parties.
6. I know myself, I can be the best judge of all things linked to me and the best decision maker.

It’s time, to say goodbye. I learned a lot this year. I lost a lot. I gained a lot, the most prized of which was experience. And my blog. People tell me often I waste my time and energies here. I pity those people for they would never feel the rush of writing and sharing their thoughts with the world. And finding people who like what I write. It might have been a year on paper, but I feel like I have lived an eon within it. While I pray that 2014 is filled with less turmoil I hope it has even more activity and a lot more memorable experiences.


Now before I head off to deck out in my new clothes for a more joyous and shallow asta-lavista , I say goodbye to the 2013 you.
Happy new year. May you find your love at 12 today.
Love. Until next time!


Ask Gull-Autumn Dressing

10 Dec


From where I hail, it ain’t much cold yet. It wouldn’t even get much below zero here in the coldest days. Bloggers are mostly bundling up though which can’t be workin(g) for me, so I was wondering if you could give some ideas/inspo(inspiration) for daily dressin(g).

Definitely, yes. I have been there and I have had to deal with that so I can understand-partly-your dilemma. Here are some ideas for you to remain stylishly warm along with some pictures for your daily “inspo”.


1. Don’t say no to coats. Honestly, “buy one if you like one” is what my motto has been and I have never regretted it. The advantages are manyfold, not the least of which being that if you ever have to move to colder climates you will have a half-ready wardrobe( 😛 ). Plus, this way you will stay on trend. The trick is how you wear them. Mid cold weather means that if a part of you is comfortably warm the whole of you would stay so. Meaning, bare your legs and cuddle in your favorite jacket. Or put on a sleeveless leather or faux fut jacket and bare your arms. In fact, maybe forget the bottoms completely and just throw on a long top with your jacket. The possibilities are endless yet would leave you on trend and sexy.


2. Shoulder it. If despite bared legs or even otherwise, your jacket or blazer feels like too much (hot) hassle, then just balance it on your shoulders and let your arms (and yourself) breathe in relief.
Side tip:- Use safety pins to keep the outerwear in place or it will keep getting in your way!p


3. Tie the knot. If it’s too warm for even hanging the ‘thick contraption from your shoulders, then tie your outerwear, even if it’s a cotton shirt that now leaves you too hot, around your waist and strut around like the rockstar you are.
Remember, this kind of weather is about layering, not just for style but for freedom to switch between your own temperatures by shedding off or putting on extra clothes. 😉


4. Oh Midi! Honestly, the midi skirt with a crop top and a lace jacket is a fool proof look for mid-season weather! No matter how thick your top, the slight wind blowing in your skirt will not let you feel too warm. Till the hot boy passes by though. Then the jacket is a perfect excuse to fan yourself! 😉


5. Stockings. Aren’t they are best friends? I love how they make me feel classy and keep me from the cold, perking up any dress. And the best part is, it’s perfect for the slight cold weather you talk about. Wear them under shorts for a girls’ night out or with a formal dress for the office holiday party. Either way you are good to go.


6. Ankle be-oo-ties. You know those mornings when it’s not cold enough to allow you to wear boots but you still want to? Enter ankle booties (yeah that’s what I am talking about, what were you thinking, you pervert). Efficient, stylish, comfortable and-well just the answer to your diva’s prayers. Again, depending on the weather couple with a skirt or jeans, the choice is yours (don’t let anybody tell you otherwise).

7. Go shirtless. Even braless. Be a bad ass….just close the buttons of your suit jacket before walking out the door! (Again, what were you thinking? Tut tut.) This has to be the hottest trend these days. Tailored pants and jackets, slicked hair, efficient makeup. Yet, the missing shirt keeps the formal wear perky and sexy, and ten degrees less hot.

I hope these tips help.
Here is my most prized look for the weather. A lightweight jacket with a barely-there chiffon top and mid-thigh skirts with ankle booties and stockings.

What is yours?

Happy Tuesday!


Monday Morning Monsters

9 Dec


We all enjoy having common crushes. We all find entertainment in raving over the same bag. And, certainly, we all love hating Mister Monday together as one big team.
Huh. How much I can say about this mister with the sneaky grin and the oily, claw like fingers.
But, alas, no matter how much I scream this, Mister Monday never listens to me!
Still, now I have decided to put my foot down. Preferably hard, while I jab at HIS proverbial foot and make this monster run away, howling in pain.
Sigh. What a wonderful fantasy.
But how to make this little dream become my reality? I fought hard with the question, but finally my brain decided to function for a minute and I was handed the answer.
And the solution I came up with is not just easy, it’s tried and tested. And approved-by more then just family and friends.
You see, we all hate Mondays not just because it’s easy to (seeing that everybody else does too) but because we keep feeding this green monster’s mouth. How, you ask? By never giving ourselves incentives to wake up with a smile on this particular day. Rather we put off all that we hate, fear or resent to be done or “started” on Mondays.
Date with the bills? Monday. Cleaning out the toilets? Monday. Start a diet? Monday. Eat less chocolate? Monday. Break up with the imperfect hottie? Start going to gym? Give up an obsession? Start a new job? Quit the old one? Confront the boss? Or meet her pervy husband?
Sheesh. I get it you hate the poor mister, but god, have mercy on him!
So today, and for the upcoming Mondays, we are going to grab the monsters that make this day despicable and give them magical makeovers.

1. For starters, try not putting your impossible goals off to the start from this Monday. If you can’t start then today you won’t then, but you will subconsciously link failure and disappointment to the day. Not only would that spoil the whole week rather it would spoil the upcoming weeks as well. So, if you want to juice, start right now. If you want to try make amends with a friend, pick up the phone!
(P.S. Delay would just worsen the situation. What are you still doing here?)


2. Do not stay awake late on Sunday night. It’s tempting, but suicidal. Look at the bigger picture. You sleep late, you wake up tired. You go to work and get swamped with work which lasts till the end of week leaving you no time to get back your energies leaving you inefficient and non-productive. And don’t even make me start how the lack of rest would make you LOOK. Party on Friday. Even on Saturday. But realize you are a grown up and this Sunday act like one by avoiding the ‘booze’, eating healthy and calling it an early night. It’s not boring, it’s being efficient and you will be thankful when you wake up energized and glowing next Monday, ready for everything your boss throws at you.


3. Plan something to look forward to for this Monday. Plan to catch up with your bestie or a lunch with a special someone. For me, a plan with my girlfriends to do a photo-shoot not only wakes me up bright and rosy but gives me a valid excuse to dress up to me best.


4. Pamper yourself and make yourself feel like royalty. Nothing, I mean it nothing will have you feeling more energized and happy then a good doze of pampering. You will be so gooey happy, would glow so wonderfully in the aftermath that the week would flow by in an ecstatic blur leaving behind a stream of deadlines met and jealous coworkers.

I hope these tricks help you the way they have helped me. Keep around for more tricks coming next week (including ways to conquer bad bed hair, bloated tummies and how to make the least shameful walk-of-shame! :-D)

In the meanwhile, Happy Monday!! :-*

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